MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH
"There is no mind over matter. Mind is matter. You don’t get over an illness by not talking about it. It isn’t weak to ask for help. It isn’t weak to want to survive. It isn’t a character flaw to experience bad things"
As a Chapter we strive in all ways to be there for our brothers and continue to create a safe space for each other. We encourage each other and step up and make sure one another are okay. We shall continue creating a place for brothers to have open conversation about mental health which is why we have created "Mental Health Week". A week filled with workshops bringing light and creating an open forum sharing stories with one another and supporting each other.
Panel Guest #1
Growing up, I struggled a lot with anxiety and depression. I’ve even come very close to self harm. Today, I am happy to say that I am a much healthier person mentally and I credit a lot of that to my friends, family, and fraternity brothers who have helped me along the way.
This is my story but unfortunately I know that this is not happening just to me. People and especially young men everywhere struggle with similar mental health problems on a daily basis, and commonly feel that they have no one to speak or relate to. Often, mental health problems are treated almost as an unspoken taboo - don’t talk about it or you are less of a “man.”
I am proud to be a brother of Phi Delta Theta at Cal Chi because these are REAL men who don’t shy away from these conversations, and instead want to bring them to the forefront. Being a part of the Mental Health Week panel where I shared my story alongside my brothers was an experience that I will cherish forever because I know I helped someone that day. Sometimes all you need is to hear someone like you tell their story to get that extra boost. To let them know that they are not alone. That we all are just humans. For our chapter to be one of the first to make this the focus of our philanthropy is something I am so grateful to be a part of and I am excited to see what work our fraternity will engage in the future in helping solve this problem.
Panel Guest #2
When my chapter first came up with the idea to do a mental health week, I thought it was an amazing idea. As someone who has dealt with anxiety and depression, I know it helps to just talk about your problems. I also feel that when you are in those states of mind, you feel so alone in the world. This events focus was to bring people together and let everyone know you are not alone or crazy for feeling this way; everyone has their bad days and you feel like your the only one who could experience these emotions but then you realize it’s actually very common among young people. We wanted to do a Mens Mental Health Week because we believe their is a big stigma around men having emotions and being in touch with their feelings. This ideology is founded in toxic masculinity and at Phi Delta Theta Cal Chi we stand against those social norms. Lastly my goal for this event is to open up a conversation about what types of resources and things to do when in these emotional states. You never know if the person next to or across from you could be dealing with anxiety and depression so we wanted to provide information to everyone, even those considered to be fine.
Panel Guest #4
Since the early years of high school I have struggled with many different mental health issues. It had gotten the worst during my sophomore year of high school. Thankfully I was able to overcome this challenge by having a supportive group of people to get me through my darkest days.
I believe the best way to overcome these obstacles is by not letting them consume you. What I find helpful is by talking to people my concerns and what I’m feeling. Sometimes they have something to say, but the most important part is letting it out. Letting dark thoughts consume you can only get worse. That’s why getting it out is like clearing your head and allowing you to break free.
I am more than aware that talking about what you’re feeling is extremely difficult, but you need to know that every feeling you have is valid and no one is going to think you’re a burden for bringing your concerns to them. If anything they’ll be more than happy to help.
Some people prefer therapists other prefer people in their lives already to talk to, but that is completely up to the person dealing with these challenging times.
Being able to join Phi Delta Theta and speak on the mental health panel has opened my eyes to just how many brothers are there for me. There’s not a single doubt in my mind that I could go to any of the brothers and they’ll be there to help. That’s one of the reasons I joined the fraternity, because they will always have your back and will bring you up in your darkest hours.